5 of my Non-Negotiable’s as a Working Mom.

Six years into this new job (of becoming a mom lol) and I have nailed down my Top 5 Priorities of enjoying motherhood while still building both my career paths.

Everything starts with intention. What’s your intention in motherhood while working? I don’t subscribe to “having it all” because that’s unrealistic and will cause B U R N OUT. When I was pregnant I really sat with what my intentions with stepping into motherhood while working. I value quality over quantity. I schedule out the year and seasons by what my current intentions our for that time with my son. What are the things I don’t want to miss out on and now that’s he’s older I ask him “Mijo mom can be at this school event or I can bring you lunch this week which one means more to you?” I’ve learned what he wants and what I want don’t always align. JaJa but now that’s he’s older I attend what he asks me to attend because this is a two way street.
2. Quality > Quantity I value the quality of my time with my son over the quantity of time. Once your intention is set it makes this step so much easier. But if I know we don’t have a lot of time together coming up on our schedule then we gotta make the most of it right? So I LOVE to do bucket lists with him. We map out our fun things we want to do or I always make sure to have a fun activity planned on my own.
3. I don’t subscribe to Mom Guilt . Mija listen BOtOX is expensive and not all of us moms want to fork over those dollars to fix all the unnecessary stress caused from Mom Guilt. It’s not your friend and it won’t make you a better mom by carrying that emotion. The world will do an excellent job convincing you to feel guilty for working and not being with your children. Take it with a grain of salt B U T there is never anything wrong with allowing yourself to invest in yourself and build a brighter future for your kids. (Insert winking Emoji)
4. Business Trips Rituals My rule of thumb with preventing “Mom Guilt” is before or after a trip to do a fun activity. This just helps coast the entire house into ease after I leave or gives my son something to look forward to when I come back home. We will take a trip to our favorite spot here in DNvR Nature and Science Museum or make a new recipe at home. Sometimes when I’m really on my Mom Game and homesick my son and I will plan a coming home activity over FaceTime. It gives us something to look forward to while I’m away.
5. L A S T, the most important thing I will tell you. Mija schedule time for yourself at least once a month. It sounds like a no brainer but honestly in my house it’s easy to get caught up in the seasons of life that I forget to pencil time in for myself. At the beginning of the month I schedule out one day for myself. This is a plan B in case the month gets busy for us I know I have at least one day pre-planned out. I use it to decompress from my high pressure jobs by getting a massage or having a full on spa day. I will literally draft out a list of things I want to accomplish for myself that month and keep the checklist rolling into the following months. It serves as a great tool to make sure I’m keeping myself accountable and putting effort to prioritize myself.